Nothing in life is guaranteed. I once was told that the only thing I could depend on was that I would have to pay taxes and die. Everything else was not a sure thing. At best, you live the best life you can, treat others the way you want to be treated and hopefully one day you’d be introduced to real happiness.
Never been the type of female to put a lot of energy into believing in fairytales and happy endings. In fact, I was the total opposite. But one day fresh out of high school, and only six months in the Army, I met the love of my life. I liked everything about him. The way he talked, the way he walked, the way he dressed, and even how attentive he was to me. He was tall, handsome, and physically fit. I did everything I could think of to please him.
We were both military and I was stationed about a four hour bus ride from him. We’d see each other on the weekends, and it was so hard for me to take that ride back home. We dated for a little while and about a year later we married, and I was relocated to where he was stationed, and we were finally together. Both of us were fairly young and Ife was wonderful, so I thought.
One day after he had pulled a 24 hour shift, he told me that he was tired of everything, wasn’t happy, and he left. In my mind I’m thinking what did I miss, what did I do wrong, how can I fix this. I cried for months and in retrospect I believe I was hurt because I had finally taken a chance on love—and he left.
As I write today, I know that I am not the only person who has experience something like this or had felt the same way after pouring so much into someone else and “They Walked Out”. I want to encourage you today to realize it was their loss and not so much yours. No guilt, no shame—they made the choice to leave. It just means that God has something better for you. I know it didn’t or doesn’t feel like it even now—but hold on and see what God does. It is not our job in life—to make others happy. They must find happiness from within themselves.
It’s time to “Shake Yourself Loose” from the pain, the guilt, or the shame of feeling as if somehow you failed—because you didn’t—“They Walked Out”. I challenge you to move forward, looking ahead to what God has planned for you. Allow Him to free your mind and your heart from this false reality—and “Shake Yourself Loose”, remembering that God will never leave you nor forsake you. (Read Proverbs 4:20-26; Hebrews 13:5)
